Dealing with Family Stress

Self Improvement | Posted by admin
May 06 2013

Dealing with Family Stress – Biblical Approach

By Albertus S.

There is not any single family without problems, and the unsolved problems can cause family stress.
Most of problems are the ones that couples have never expected before, ranging from financial aspect, sickness, education for children, prodigal sons, disagreeable habits and character of the partner that are disclosed after getting married, etc, etc.
These all things would result in unhappiness in the family.

It’s natural that people are trying everything to make them happy with their life, and think that marriage is a means to get happy. This concept is totally wrong. However, getting married and having a family is absolutely a good thing as it complies with what God says in the Bible in Genesis 2 chapter 18: “Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him”.

Now, why then have there been many people who have family stress and they are not happy with their marriage? The answer is because men have no good relationship with God. They try to solve their problem in the marriage by relying on their own strength and not the power from God.

God loves man who is virtually His creation. He sent His Son to the earth to become a man called Jesus Christ about 2000 years ago, who taught all the people that Father in heaven really loves them, and wants them to worship Him and thus be blessed through obeying His commands.

We now come to the point of the blessed family. The blessed family will have eternal happiness coming from God despite any problems the family has.

How do you get your family blessed by God? There is only on way: accept God through Jesus Christ in your life and obey His commands.
This is in line with what God has said in Psalm 128 chapter 1: “BLESSED (HAPPY, fortunate, to be envied) is everyone who fears, reveres, and worships the Lord, who walks in His ways and lives according to His commandments”, and the blessing will be like what is said in chapter 2: “For you shall eat [the fruit] of the labor of your hands; happy (blessed, fortunate, enviable) shall you be, and it shall be well with you”, and chapter 3: ”Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the innermost parts of your house; your children shall be like olive plants round about your table”.

So that the happiness and joy should not actually be something that a couple struggles for in the family but they are the results of the husband and wife obeying God’s commandments and thereby being blessed with eternal happiness and joy.  Couple should ask for God’s help in dealing with family stress.
With the blessing from God, your will receive the right solution to your problem that probably you have never thought of.
Problems are certainly still there, but with the help from God there will be always a way out.

This formula will absolutely apply for all aspects of life, not only in the marriage and family.

I hope this short article will give you a new inspiration and a new hope for a better marriage life. Get rid off the family stress by the help of God, and turn it into happiness.

May God bless you. Amen

Related article you ought to read:
How Not to Worry in God’s Promise

Do I Need Anger Counseling

General | Posted by admin
Aug 05 2012

When Do I Need Anger Counseling?

By Albert S

One of the important things that you have to realize before going for anger counseling is that if you are difficult to control anger. When we talk about the counseling, we really should have the know-how about feeling or emotion known as anger. First you should have anger analysis: Anger can be categorized as a secondary emotion, and if your anger has been classified as a humongous problem, then you would need anger counseling where you also would learn have learn the root causes of anger.

The main cause of anger is fear. Some may think that it is outrageous to have anger with fear, but the fact of the matter is that the anger was rooted somewhere fill in the fear. Anger or rage is not an abnormal emotion and cannot be underestimated. In these circumstances you do not have any anger counseling. All you need is to go to places anger counseling in a place where they can remember very quickly.

When Do I Need Anger Counseling?

The right time to go to anger counseling is when your heart send more data to the brain about how we feel, far more than the brain sends to the heart, brain and heart and brain are affinitive cooperative, a good brain to use in dealing with stress. Anger counseling involving rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) would involve the recognition of negative thoughts and disputing them automatically in case of REBT or create flow chart of the evidence that supports your hot thoughts and conflicting evidence in the case thinks you’re hot CBT.

What Is the Preparation For Successful Anger Counseling?

Preparing awareness can be a key piece of the anger counseling, but this is mind, not just physiology or pulse. After the anger subsides and the back of your mind to the verge of “rational”, you will recognize the lack of control, and often feel depressed and frustrated; other cycle settings angry. You want to break away and change your behavior when feeling angry, frustrated, hurt, despair, worry, fear, annoyance, stressed, etc. You can get some understanding of the mechanisms of anger and rage.

What Considerations to Take Before Going to Anger Counseling?

You need to know, that you are NOT responsible for the arrival of your spouse’s anger. The problem occurs because a moment let your mind become frustrated, hurt, worry, fear, etc. to “irrational” behavior of your choice directly. The emotion of anger produced as part of the mind or the evaluation process and affect behavioral responses. Anger then loop back and affect your thinking process. The range of behavioral responses that can be motivated by emotions of anger counseling made as part of the explanation of the anger.

A behavioral response with a temper tantrum is calculated in the places the body under extreme tension. Holding in your anger counseling can lead to depression, and may cause gastro-intestinal problems. So, anger is not suppressing a positive way to handle it well. I suggest you to do your own anger analysis first, to examine the thoughts that can lead to damage brought by the anger rage response, before go to anger counseling.

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